How to Start a Fight

Sermon Passage: James 4:1–3.

1 What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? 2 You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.


You've never been in a fight where you were completely innocent.

How to Start a Fight:

  • Step One: Prioritize Your Pleasures
  • Step Two: Identify & Eliminate Obstacles

In our selfishness, we treat others as vehicles for our pleasures. Once they stop helping and start hindering, they become obstacles we try to eliminate in any way possible.

We take this selfishness to prayer (James 4:2–3), and that's why God doesn't grant our prayer. Conform your heart to his to find more prayers answered.

What do you need to find peace instead of frustration? 

God's Way:

  • Step One: Prioritize God's Pleasures
  • Step Two: Identify & Eliminate Obstacles

Zealously seek the pleasures of God. Make his passions yours and make his delight your greatest delight.