A praise report worthy of sharing! God was swift in my answer to prayer. My questions were basically, 'How can you be submissive to your husband if he's wrong, and not seeking rightly after God.' The answer came after just a couple weeks of inner struggle, and ONE DAY of sharing that struggle in the Sermon Q&A. Wow. I'm overwhelmed all over again just typing it. LOL.
Anyways, the answer is 1 Peter 2:24–25 and Ephesians 2:1–11 [see below]. Perspective. We are ALL sinners. And we ALL have sinned and satisfied our sinful craving. I asked myself at what point can I be angry? At what point can I stop and say, "Enough is enough" [and I stop forgiving]? When Jesus did. And "while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" [Romans 5:8]. So there is never a time when enough is enough.
God showed me that by focusing on my husband's weaknesses and how they really hurt my feelings, all I was doing was building a pride wall. Subconsciously, I was telling my husband, "Grow faster!" Even when my feelings are really hurt the idea still says the same. I can be angry and spiteful towards my husband when God [is angry and spiteful towards me and] decides that enough is enough. So, never.
God gave me grace, which sheds a whole new light on submission. Anyway, I could go on. And I have, like, a billion more things to say about it and what God has taught me, but I'll stop here. God is good! And I can stop being submissive (aka grace filled) when Christ quits on me!
1 Peter 2:24–25
24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 25 For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.
1 And you were dead in the trespasses and sins 2 in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience— 3 among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. 4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, 5 even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— 6 and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. 8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 9 not a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. 11 Therefore remember that at one time you Gentiles in the flesh, called “the uncircumcision” by what is called the circumcision, which is made in the flesh by hands.